Well, it has been awhile since I have had anything new to post. Trying to recover from a failed IUI cycle and figure out where to go next, I guess.
On Sunday June 27th at 12:57 PM Jill and Trevor Parmley had a beautiful baby boy named Christopher Brandon. At 9 lbs 10 oz and 21 inches long, he was a very big boy. I got to hang out with their three year old Kira for about a hour and a half while Jill and Trevor were in the delivery room and waiting for Grandma and Grandpa to get there. We drew 10 or so pictures. From a red dog named Freddie to a mommy dog chasing a daddy dog.
After Jill and Christopher were able to have visitors, I went back to the hospital and spent about 2 hours with Jill, Trevor, Jill's mom & dad, Kira, and Christopher. I took a few pictures, not as many as I did when Kristi had her baby a couple weeks ago, but I didn't want to get in the way.
Monday evening Kathy and I stopped back at the hospital, being she wasn't able to be there Sunday, because she was in Madison. I stopped at Walgren's and printed out a really cute picture of Kira and Christopher that I took Sunday, and framed it for them. We only spent about an hour there, but Kathy held Christopher almost the entire time we were there. I just loved seeing her holding that baby, it almost made me cry.
I would have thought that with two people really close to me having babies recently that it would make me sad, but I have loved spending time with them and hearing all about it. It just makes me want to keep going and not give up. It makes me want to do anything with in my power to have a baby.
Originally after the IUI didn't work, we were leaning towards doing IVF in Spain, because they are in the top ten for quality of health care in the world and we could afford to do it with out having to save more money or borough any money. Now we are very close to making the decision to go to the Shady Grove Fertility Center in Rockville, MD. The funny thing is when we first started trying to have a family ( before we knew we were going to have troubles) we lived in Rockville, MD. It is quite a bit more expensive than Spain, but you get everything included for one price. This includes six tries (with fresh embryos and unlimited frozen embryo transfers), all medications, and a money back guarantee. Not just that we will get pregnant, but that we will deliver a health baby. If we don't we get all the money back and we can look into adoption. Even though it is more money and we still have to figure out how to fund it, it seems like such a good option, no stressing out or worrying, we would know that there is always another try around the corner. My friend Charles who still lives in Rockville, has said that he would let us sleep on his couch, so other than the IVF it would be mainly the cost of airfare from Chicago/Milwaukee to D.C.
If all goes well and we get all the finances lined up, we will be starting our medication regiment in July and going out to D.C. the first part of September for our first cycle.
This September 9th, will be our 4 year wedding anniversary, so it would definitely be a special anniversary gift. We have always tried to do something special for our anniversary, when we were just dating it seemed like we were never together for our year anniversary, so we have tried to make each wedding anniversary special and memorable. Our one year, was when we lived in D.C. and we drove to Niagara Falls and spent the night. Our second anniversary we spent in Jacksonville, I was there for work and Kathy flew out to spend the following weekend with me. We stayed at the Marriott Sawgrass resort and had a wonderful time at the beach and seeing the sights. For our third anniversary, instead of going somewhere we decided to buy our selves a really nice Canon camera, so that we could take really nice pictures of our trips. It was a wonderful purchase, we use that camera all the time and the picture always turn out so incredible. If we could enjoy our fourth anniversary in D.C. getting pregnant, that would just be a dream come true.
People always say and I'd have to say that I generally agree; "everything happens for a reason." It may not be the reason we want or we may not understand why, but God always has a plan. God does not make mistakes. I know this is incredibly hard to see when you loose a loved one or are having troubles like Kathy and I are having, but the truth is God loves us. We were never promised that life on earth was going to be perfect, the only thing we were promised was that if we believed and loved in God, we could spend eternity with him in Heaven. So all we can do is say our prayers and do everything that God puts in front of us and let him do the rest. If in the end God has another plan for us, we will have to learn to accept that, but until then, we are going to do everything in our power to help God.
I have been thinking of two jokes a lot recently. The first one has to do with a man/woman sitting on the roof of their house in a flood praying fro God to help them. A boat and a helicopter come to save them and they tell them that they don't need saving, God will save them. Later they are praying to God to save them and he responds back to them "I sent a boat and a helicopter to save you" (that maybe wasn't a joke, maybe more of a parable, any way) the second one is definitely a joke. A blonde ( I can say this cause I'm blonde) is praying to God to win the lottery ( as I'm sure we all do from time to time). Each night she prays to win the lottery and each night she does not win, finally she is upset with God, "why have you not let me win the lottery?" God replied back to the blonde, "help me out a little bit and buy a lottery ticket." I think they are both very true. We can't expect God to do all the work, God puts options in front of us and it is our responsibility to take advantage of them and make our miracles happen.
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